Articles - Janet Bengan, Christian Writer & Author

Boldly Choosing to Honor God in Your Singleness Despite the Challenges

By Janet Bengan | June 25, 2024June 25, 2024 by Janet Bengan

For the single Christian who wants to get married, singleness is challenging thanks to unfulfilled desire and the needs of the body that only marriage can satisfy. For example, sexual pressure and the need for marital companionship. When you add that internal pressure to the external pressure from people’s opinions, you’d understand why singleness is a state many want to escape at all costs. That cost can be sex before marriage to satisfy and keep…

A Simple Secret to Praying Consistently When You Don’t Feel Like It

By Janet Bengan | June 23, 2024June 25, 2024 by Janet Bengan

The secret to praying when you don’t feel like it is to pray, anyway. That’s it. Not often easy, but simple. I’m going to suggest some aids you can use to overcome prayerlessness, but this has to be said loud and clear: To build a consistent prayer life you must ignore your emotions and pray whether you feel like it or not. You build a prayer life by praying without ceasing (1 Thess 5:17), becoming…

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Waiting on God for a Spouse: Amazing True Stories of God’s Timing

By Janet Bengan | June 22, 2024June 25, 2024 by Janet Bengan

I curated these true stories of those who waited on God for a spouse to encourage any single who’s discouraged by an extended unwanted singleness. These stories magnify the goodness and faithfulness of God and will help you wait for what you truly deserve, a spouse brought to you by the Lord. But before we get to the stories, it is important to answer a very important question. The answer to this question will help…

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6 Ways Single Shaming Happens in Churches and Christian Circles

By Janet Bengan | June 21, 2024June 25, 2024 by Janet Bengan

Christian singles receive mixed messages all the time. “Get married! Be content with singleness and focus on God your first husband!” For the most part, many Christians keep aside what the Bible says about singleness and marriage, and instead present their personal opinions and experiences to singles as truth. This results in single shaming, which can be hard to call out because much of the concern comes from a place of good intentions. However, some…

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Angry with God Because You’re Still Single? I’ve Been There Too

By Janet Bengan | June 3, 2024June 25, 2024 by Janet Bengan

“Lord, I didn’t come to you because I wanted you to give me a husband,” I had to tell God and myself a few times. “I was a sinner in need of a Savior.” This, usually to calm my anxious (read angry) heart when the challenges of still being single hurt. I know exactly the frustration of wanting to be married but not meeting someone suitable. And how easy it is to turn that frustration…